“Not Just For Men”: How to Stay Away from Mommy Porn (Guest Post by Amanda Donaldson)

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It is often thought of as a man’s problem – sexual imagery and role play. The effect of pornography has been studied by many scientists and sex therapists. The verdict has been the same; it triggers the brain the same way of that of drug and alcohol addicts.

When an addict sees their addiction the brain immediately lights up with an overpowering desire to fulfill its want. It’s no surprise that these addictions have negative effects on the body, including depression, unhealthy sexual behavior and failed relationships.

Let’s look at some stats for women and porn addiction. About half (49%) of young adult women agree that viewing pornography is an acceptable way of expressing one’s sexuality. 62% of women have seen pornography by the age of 18. About 1 in 5 women (18%) use the internet for sexual purposes habitually—every week.

A new term is up and rising, it’s called “Mommy Porn”.  “Mommy porn” is described as erotic romance that focuses on female sexual fantasy. The main source of “Mommy Porn” is books.

The authors of these erotic romance novels believe that with their books women can get what they want through fantasy without it becoming harmful or addictive. They say that because their books are infused with romance this makes it very different from pornography.

However, these novels are meant to arouse the individual with lustful thoughts and words – the exact purpose of pornography! Now with the accessible E-Readers no one would know what you’re reading on your tablet; thus, hiding your sexual immorality.

There are two reasons why one would entertain the idea of dabbling in this genre:

First, you are single and anxious to find a spouse to fulfill your romantic desires. You use erotica to fantasize your future and fulfill sexual desires outside of marriage.

The funny thing is women authors write these books creating the characters. No man born of this world will fulfill a woman’s desire like that of a character in a romance novel. It takes time and a lot of communication between you and your spouse to get what you are looking for.

Second, you are married and have become bored and dissatisfied with your spouse. You give the excuse of “looking for ideas” to spice up your marriage. You begin to get so wrapped up in erotic, fictitious romance that you neglect your own marital duties as a wife.

Now the question becomes how do we “flee from sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians 6:18)? The most obvious answer is research the book before reading it.

I like to use www.pluggedin.com for all entertainment reviews – movies, books, TV, music. This is a site started by Focus on the Family. Therefore, I know I can trust the review and get an honest opinion from a Christian writer.

Other sites such as www.goodreads.com, www.simonandschuster.com and www.litlovers.com can be considered when searching for a book review. Focus on the Family has a website for Tween/Teen reads called www.thrivingfamily.com. This way you can monitor what your child is reading as well.

“Mommy porn” is selling at an all time high thanks to 50 Shades of Grey. These authors are now the highest paid authors in the world. 50 Shades of Grey has sold over 100 million copies, turned into a movie, and is now a musical comedy in New York City.

I don’t see this as a “man problem”. I see this as a humanity problem. We women too often blame men for their evil sexual desires, even judging them for their struggle. The fact of the matter is women struggle with the exact same sin for the exact same reasons.

What do you think? Is “mommy porn” as dangerous as traditional porn? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment!

3 thoughts on ““Not Just For Men”: How to Stay Away from Mommy Porn (Guest Post by Amanda Donaldson)

  1. Thanks for this article. This book and the movie have been a topic of discussion at work for quite a while. The moral compass has hit an all time low as people have the “do what makes you happy attitude.” I appreciate the biblical view on this topic.

  2. I agree with this article 100%. Soap operas are also not a good thing for women. I believe it breeds discontentedness in a relationship as the man is then expected to measure up to an impossible standard.

    • This is the exact same thing that happens when a man views traditional pornography. He becomes discontent with his wife and sets an impossible standard no woman can meet. The dangers are the same. Thanks tabitha!

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