This month my wife and I celebrated our ninth anniversary. Our marriage includes highlights such as graduating from college, having two children, and moving to Long Island. And our third child will be born in just a few days!
Want to know the crazy part? We got married when we were just 19 years old!
People told us we were too young. They said we weren’t ready, we couldn’t support ourselves, we should wait until after college, blah blah blah. They said the same thing when we started having kids a few years later at age 22.
We showed them, and we’re still showing them. We don’t regret starting our family at such a young age. I’m convinced it’s actually what was best for us.
It might also be what’s best for society. The average age of marriage has steadily risen over the last 50 years. So has the average rate of divorce.
Getting married young doesn’t necessarily mean your marriage will succeed. But I think those who get married young have a better chance than those who wait until they’re older. Here are a few reasons why:
It Increases Your Maturity
The twenties have become an age of immaturity. Single people are usually irresponsible, wasting their time and money. Instead of moving into adulthood, many of them get stuck in extended adolescence.
Getting married forces you to be responsible. You grow up when you have to start providing for yourselves. You learn the difference between necessities and luxuries. And you learn (painfully) that the world doesn’t revolve around you.
The sooner you learn these lessons, the better off you’ll be.
It Strengthens Your Unity
It seems wise to wait until after you start a career to get married. But this can actually work against you. If your twenties are spent establishing your own career and lifestyle, how willing are you going to be to compromise and sacrifice for your spouse?
Getting married young allows you to form a life together. You make decisions about your future in terms of us rather than me. You consider what’s best for your marriage rather than just what’s best for you.
It Protects You from Temptation
Paul says, “Since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2-3).
He goes on to say, “It is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:9).
Pornography and premarital sex are strong temptations, especially for young people who are burning with sexual passion! That’s why it’s so rare for two people to still be virgins when they get married.
It’s better to get married young and start having sex while your desires are strongest. That way you can remain pure for God and your spouse.
The Bottom Line
What makes a healthy marriage isn’t getting married young, but God’s blessing. When you’re faithful to Him in how you treat your spouse, raise your kids, and handle your finances, He’ll bless you no matter how old you are!
Should people get married young or wait until they’re older? Share your thoughts with a comment below!
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